Debbie
What on earth has having a few debts got to do with you starting a new relationship??? And you are actually doing something about them rather than ignoring them. I watched your videos on IVA TV over the weekend and was struck at how lovely a person you are, full of good ideas and support and advice for others. This needs to be shared, and not bottled up because you feel a failure. That poor man now probably thinks that you have given him the brush off, and he is probably wondering why?
You work in such a difficult area (I thought my career was stressful!) and are constantly having to deal with families in despair and pain, but manage to keep cheerful and always have a kind word to say about your fellow posters on the forum. I imagine you take a very practical and common sense approach to most issues you face, but when it involves us personally we do tend to neglect ourselves. I, for instance, am hopeless at doing my own accounts, and actually pay for an external accountant to do them. Crazy!!!!
Find an excuse to call that man tomorrow! Most people are actually unphased about other people's debts, as we live in a society where indebtedness is part of our culture, and this does not make you an unrealistic proposition. And can we have regular progress reports please!!!
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner for over 20 years.
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