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Post by Denise.gn » Mon May 06, 2013 9:35 am
Really struggling today.
 
 

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Post by plasticdaft » Mon May 06, 2013 10:22 am
Feel free to lean on us, laugh or cry, good news or bad. We are all here to help with the struggling days.

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Post by Shining » Mon May 06, 2013 10:29 am
What's wrong Denise...the sun is shining try and go outside as this can often be the best medicine ever..
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Post by Denise.gn » Mon May 06, 2013 10:32 am
Just really struggling and have no one else to talk to. Thought the anxiety would get better by now, but it just seems to be getting worse and worse. Have contacted a help line to see if they can help me get through this today.
 
 

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Post by Shining » Mon May 06, 2013 10:33 am
Well remember we're here, you've no need to be alone x
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Post by Foggy » Mon May 06, 2013 10:35 am
You'll get through it Denise. Most, if not all, of us were all over the place in the early days, but it does get better.

In the meantime feel free to post here. Like you, I have no-one else to talk to and the forum members get the lot from me ! :-)
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Post by Denise.gn » Mon May 06, 2013 10:43 am
Thanks. Just a major wobble today. Feel very teary. So hard to put a brave face on when all I want to do at present is cry. Sorry guys, i prommised i would stay away from posting, but today is just an awful day and i feel really bad. Hopefully once i have spoken to the people shortly, i may feel a bit better.
 
 

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Post by Shining » Mon May 06, 2013 10:44 am
Nobody has to stay away from posting Denise, there is usually someone here to talk to. Talking to an expert on the helpline will hopefully help you.
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Post by sterling » Mon May 06, 2013 10:52 am
We all have our 'black' days and sometimes few, if any, words can help but please seek out help and support. This forum has lovely members and I know if good thoughts could be passed along you'd be feeling better soon.
 
 

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Post by Denise.gn » Mon May 06, 2013 10:55 am
Hopefully yes, just feel like I need some additional support today. The seriousness of my situation has just engulfed me today and completely taken over. Have put together some coping strategies but today they just seem to have gone out of the window.
 
 

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Post by Foggy » Mon May 06, 2013 10:55 am
It always helps to talk -- and you can bet your bottom dollar (bad choice of words -- sorry) that someone else is lurking, with similar problems and concerns, who has yet to pluck up the courage to post and will find comfort too.
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Post by Denise.gn » Mon May 06, 2013 11:04 am
Thanks Foggy. I am trying not to go round in circles and ask the same questions etc. I think today is just about me feeling pretty down, guilty for the mess i have got into, anger at myself and others. I am trying to cope by not thinking into the future and the what if's, just trying to take each day as it comes and not panic. For some reason today that is just not working. Had a panic attack this morning and frightened me to death.
 
 

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Post by Foggy » Mon May 06, 2013 11:07 am
Yeah, panic attacks can be horrific and are, by nature, self perpetuating. You did well in controlling it.

Those famous words, "One step at a time" are very relevant here :-)
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Post by Denise.gn » Mon May 06, 2013 11:13 am
it was really hard, i thought i was completely losing control and that was scary, had to bring myself back from it before anyone noticed. Really hard. Just feel like i want to crawl back into bed and stay there for the rest of the day, same as i did yesterday. But know that isnt going to help anything and the problems are still there. Cant stand this feeling of feeling like i am on the brink of tears all the time. Have to bring it back and get a grip big time today
 
 

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Post by plasticdaft » Mon May 06, 2013 11:17 am
Tiny little steps. Somedays may feel like backwards steps are taken but after a while you will find you have taken more forwards steps than backwards ones.

And dont ever stop talking to us, we really are here to listen and help in any way we can.

Paul
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