Hi chae
You are experiencing common difficulties which many people experience when they have children - those little ones cost a lot of money!!!
I am assuming that yours is the only income into the household - but could you confirm if your girlfriend also works, or has any benefit income. You will no doubt be receiving child benefit, and possibly child tax or working families tax credit.
Your expenses look very low at £600, and I wonder if you have taken full account of everything, including items which are not paid on a regular monthly basis such as road tax and car maintenance. You should sit down and list out all income and expenditure to confirm your figures.
As you mention that you are only just starting to run into problems, it may be that some minor restructuring to your finances is required. However, with £45,000 worth of unsecured debt, I imagine the repayments are actually quite high. You basically therefore have three options:-
1 Agree reduced monthly payments with your creditors, and make sure that you do not borrow any more money. You can either do this yourself, or get professional assistance from either the Citizens Advice Bureau or a debt management company. The downside of this type of agreement is that you will continue to make the payments until the debts are paid off in full, and interest will continue to be charged at the same time.
2 Propose an IVA to your creditors, based upon an affordable monthly payment for a maximum three year period.
3 Declare yourself bankrupt - perhaps the most extreme option given your circumstances, but this would remove your responsibility to repay your creditors, to be replaced by again an affordable monthly repayment to be paid over a three year period - at the discretion of the Trustee.
Lots to think about, and do research things thoroughtly. I also recommend that you contact an insolvency practitioner or a debt management company for more specific advice. But don't hesitate to post more questions on the site if you feel we can help.
Good luck
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner for over 20 years.
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http://melaniegiles.blogs.iva.co.uk