Hi Joanne and welcome to the forum
With regard to the offer of a loan from your relative, why not consider offering a sum of money via an IVA in full and final settlement. As a guide, the sum of £15,000 would be the minimum acceptable, however this will be dependent upon your individual circumstances, your level of current disposable income and the equity in your property. Also if you owe any money to HSBC or Northern Rock you will have to offer more as they have relatively high minimum dividend criteria.
You are also suggesting taking a loan from your relatives to pay the debts in full which will be repayable over 10 years. This is a better option for your creditors, as they get all of their money repaid, but is a 10 year repayment period realistic with a young family? Have you considered how much the loan repayments will be and are they affordable?
Your other suggestion about selling your house and using some of the money released to repay your debts, and then purchasing a smaller, cheaper property is also a good one depending upon the level of equity you have in your property. If you can post some more case specific information, we can advise you further.
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner for over 20 years.
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