Hi scg and welcome to the forum
First of all the majority of insolvency practitioners will want to ensure that you are paying a fair, but affordable, monthly payment to your creditors.
From my perspective, as a practising IP, there is absolutely no point in leaving a client with a lifestyle of purgatory, as there is then a risk that you will get fed up of the IVA and it will fail. So you will need to carefully calculate your disposable income (your IP will help with this) to find out a realistic and affordable level to offer to creditors, leaving you with sufficient money each month to maintain a modest lifestyle with some provision for unforseen contingencies such as house and car maintenance, medical expenses and miscellaneous expenditure.
How much equity do you have in your house, after taking account of the outstanding mortgage? It is definately possible for you and your wife to propose IVAs based upon an offer of settlement from equity raised in your property - she absolutely does not need to be employed to make that form of offer, as you will not be required to then make ongoing monthly payments. Perhaps your current advisor has not looked at the complete picture?
Please post more details as to the equity available from a potential sale, and I can advise further.
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner for over 20 years.
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http://www.melaniegiles.com and view my IVA blog at:
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