Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
I thought my parents wouldn't understand. They had battled with redundancy and low income when my brother and I were little..going without so we didn't and they always kept their head above water.
I thought if my dad knew he would disown us. My mum guessed something was up and I told her everything- it was such a relief and they have both been absolutely brilliant.
Supportive, not judgemental and help out loads with the girls'clothes(my mum finds the most wonderful charity shop bargains!)
I feel a different person without that cloud of secrets and lies over me now.
A fabulous positive post, well done you what a journey you've had and all in a year!
Cath I'm pleased you're getting support from Mum, wouldn't tell mine as she wouldn't understand but have told one friend and I like the idea I don't have to hide it anymore although it's not spoken about. Told 16 year old daughter too about our problems and she is more undersatnding now she knows.
IVA final payment left the bank on the 26th January 2013...looking forward to a debt free future.
I don't lie to my parents. Our financial situation, theirs and ours, has never been discussed.
As far as I am concerened, my finanancial problems are nothing to do with them.
I know they would not understand how we had got here so will never tell them.
To be honest, it has never really bothered me as long as I can continue as I am.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
I did lie and hated having to. Being repossessed is not something you can exactly hide. I obviously had to tell them something but I was too ashamed to tell them what had actually happened.I made some story up which I thought sounded feasible but my mum is no fool and she figured it out for which I am eternally grateful.
I firmly believe you are never to old to have a sob on your mums shoulder and for her to tell you everything will be OK.
I agree AR, I am 40 years of age and how rediculous that I still need my mummy from time to time....I hope my kids can rely on me the same way when they are older.
7 year IVA completed in December 2016 - there is light at the end of that tunnel
That's a brilliant post futureisgood, and I hope you have a much better 2010.
I could never have lied to my mum. There's a difference between not mentioning something and lying, and I know it would have hurt my mum more if I'd lied than it did when I told her.
I'm afraid my parents would never let me sob on their shoulders at all.
They never did that when I got divorced!
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
Although I know I could, I don't tend to sob on my mum's shoulder - I love her to bits, but she's very aaah, there there, everything will be ok. I'm the opposite and she doesn't understand why I don't like it!
Mine is totally the opposite. She would not understand at all and I have never been able talk to her about anything.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
My parents are exactly like Kallis'. I see them everyday, we talk about everything, except money. I am sure my mother knows we are in trouble but my Dad has warned her not to say anything. I left home because she opened my mail. That was a tough time and my dad wouldn't want a repeat of that.
The future's bright, the future's debt free. In 72 months to be exact!
