Serious illness

[Skippy]

Ida, I'll be thinking of you and your children on Thursday and sending you lots of love.

Lily, that is a lovely way of looking at things and I'm going to remember that xxx

[Julie]

I hope the sun shines at Llwydcoed on Thursday...I was there for my uncle last year [:(]

What Lili said is so lovely and true "dont cry because its over, smile that it happened."

xx

[Ida Clare]

You know what, I LOVED him so so much, would have died for him, only ever tried to make him and my family happy. I never even made the list of what is important.

He died, and as I left the hospital, in my jamas, kar keys in my hand, death cert in other, alone because he never allowed me friends and cut me off from family, they called me back, his mobile was ringing, hidden in his dressing gown...........................................the mother of his 4 year old child, reason for the IVA, MINE as well as his, was calling

Calling because of his text, "I am in the ambulance ring me at 9 I'll send her out and let you know what is happening"



He died on that tuesday, it took me till the following one to absorb it, to realise, and when I rang her back, I got the truth.

He ran 2 homes, dragged me into debt, deprived our kids and STILL supported her.

My kids have nothing, did nothing went nowhere.

I was a prisoner in my own home.

He would rather die than do the decent thing.

Stick a fork in me, I am so so done.

[MelanieGiles]

Oh Ida - your emotions must be all over the place at the moment, but do try to remember the good times and concentrate on the children.

I am sure that R loved you all equally, and that you were all a very big part of his life. Thinking ill of him now is not going to help anyone and you do need to be strong for the children.

[Shining]

Ida, my heart goes out to you and your emotions must be very mixed, you loved him and he loved you always remember that, concentrate on giving those children the best as you can and something that costs nothing is unconditional love. Ida I admire you for coping with what you've been through, stay strong xx

[Ida Clare]

If he loved me he wouldn't have done what he did, he wouldn't have stolen from his own children.

[kallis3]

Ida, I know you don't know where your head is at now, and you obviously need to vent your anger, and feel free to do so on here.

Mel is right though - think of the good times, and concentrate on you and the children right now and you will come out the other side. R loved you all very much.

[Ida Clare]

No he really didn't he preferred to die than do the decent thing. He kept her right to his last breath. He really was scum, made me nurse him singlehanded through the horror of his cancer, ran me into the ground and still went to her.

[kallis3]

Ida, you're in a very dark place right now, it's not been long since he died and you are still hurting and grieving.

Concentrate on the kids and helping them to get back to normal, and it will start to get better for you.

[captain sensible]

something about this story does not "gel",

Here is a quote from earlier in the thread "We have been together for 24 years, since we were 18, living together I mean, a couple. Too long to contemplate one of us leaving at 42."

Now he has another woman and a 4 year old child?

Confusing