How can he live with himself?

[michael.t47]

good girl you well rid of him i got msn link now

[Shining]

Forget him Pink Dog and move on, easier said than done but it's for the best honest, I can never forgive my ex as he wanted to pay his idea) for our daughters wedding all booked and he had a row with daughter and pulled out as he couldn't organise her day his way, his finances withdrawn immediately and I stepped in rather than let her down, got myself into debt so much I am now in an IVA he's still in his nice house, with nice car, with nice holidays. Bitter me....a little but life is too short, I can hold my head up high, I'm on the wedding pics and my husband (her step-father gave her away with pride. What really grates me is, daughter and him reconciled (which is nice) but as though nothing ever happened. When I hear Dad bought me this and Dad did this I want to say something but always bite my tongue.

You've moved on and living with new partner, I would concentrate on that and things will get easier, let him run up debts if that is what he's doing because at the end of the day you are sorting your life out. All the best x

[bluey875]

i've worked in garages where the employees dont even know where the petrol goes [:)][:)][:)]

as for the watch your back thing- if he's done it before he could do it again and if he thinks you are sniffing round he may do something stupid out of spite.[}:)]

i wouldnt worry to much about him,hes out your life,just hope that if he is doing something illegal he gets caught and banged to rights.
stick with the BF ,the bike and the horse it sounds like you are happier that way.

[Skippy]

I agree with Lesley. Don't let this eat you up - you are worth far more than him so hold your head high and don't sink to his level.

[michael.t47]

well written lesley

[abc]

If he obtained credit in your name without your permission then I would certainly report this to his Official Receiver. His Official Receiver can be found on the insolvency service website and search your ex boyfriends details.

Also, it might be worth speaking to CAB or a soliictor whether ou actually owe any money if ou did not agree or sign any agreements.

[Viki.W]

Pink Dog, I completely understand that you are upset over this but please think carefully before you make any rash decisions. You sound like a lovely person and you've gone through so much with that and the worry over Major. I've just seen the pictures of him, he's adorable.

You need to remember that driving around in an expensive car doesn't necessarily mean he's happy. He's probably miserable because he's a horrible person! As Marie says, what goes around comes around. I believe that if you put this behind you it will make YOU a better person.

I'm 37 and have put off having children because I couldn't afford it, I now realise that it was crazy to think like that. You WILL get there. Thinking of you. Viki X

[michael.t47]

Viki you can never afford to have children!!! they still costing me now an they 21 an 22 an one has a child of their own, my lovely gracie

[Julie]

Well I'm scuppered - have 2 girls,24 + 22, alon g with 2 gorgeous granddaughters and I'm pregnant (thankfully). So I'll never have money - but the love will be more than enough for a much wanted addition to the family.

Hope you get it all sorted Pink Dog - its not fair but be a shame for him to continue ruining your life.

[Viki.W]

Michael and Julie, I don't have ANY money[:(], but lots of love.[:)] so I should be ok......just have to wait for the nature thing now![;)] X

[Moneystinks]

Well once your sorted with 'everything' Viki it may just well happen and if not and it is right for you then there are lots of children who need some of that love you have to offer.

Once this debt is finally managed I think this will be the path we take - it is nice to plan with the knowledge that one way or another the debt will be managed and finished with. X

[Pink Dog]

i love my bf more than i have ever loved any other man and i feel taht giving him a child is the greatest way to express my love to him - im just disappointed that i cant do it until after all this is over

[Julie]

Pink dog don't beat yourself up over it. Things will work out for you. I'm sure you will have a child when the time is right for you.

In the meantime keep posting and we'll give you as much support as we can x

[Lisa2009]

I seriously wouldnt put my life or having a family on hold for any man.
Have your baby and hold your head up high. Money wise, you WILL manage. Babys dont know about material things and by the time the child is old enough to know, you will be debt free.
Dont forget, friends and family will do their bit without realising that you have money issues.

Dont let this man drive you down and dont let the anger put a strain on the relationship you have now.

[michael.t47]

totally agree with you mrs skint
go for it pink