think the debts are going to cause us to split up

[ladyjayne]

He wants me off the mortgage and the deeds. How much is this likely to cost? I'm fully aware that this is the beginning of the end as far as the relationship is concerned. Its all getting very nasty. I do contribute to the mortgage etc but no where near 50% so I dont know where I stand. I contribute £200 direct debit to joint account and pay for the car and our insurance on it from my account and for some of the monthly shopping.

[angela18]

i would have a look for some legal advise jayne.. just to see where you stand. your partner sounds a bit of a one. sounds to me you are better off without him. if you've contributed at least something to the mortgage surely you are entitled to something if you leave. check your rights x and good luck

[Moneystinks]

I tend to agreed with Angela. I feel as you have already said it is possibly the beginning of the end in terms of a relationship. I would get some legal advice, along with some professional financial advice. Although everything probably feels very scary at the moment with the right advice and alot of inner strength, determination and this forum you get through.

Good luck and keep posting it reall does help. XX

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[ladyjayne]

Thanks again for your posts. I have had a few days off work as my head is in bits. We both work at the same place, he is not my direct boss but he can make my life difficult there as well as he has alot of authority and I have to deal with him quite a bit. I would struggle to get another job for the same money as my job is unique to the place really. We only have one car which is mine, I insure it but he has it. I went to the bank yesterday and wanted to go to citizens advice but the nearest one is about three towns away!!! I know it will get better than it is right now.

[kallis3]

ladyjayne,

I think you need to get out of that relationship sooner, rather than later.

I don't think I would want to work in the same place either, I imagine that he could, and probably will, make your working life hell. Even if it means taking a drop in pay, I would change my job.

I think you definitly need to seek professional advice about the house as you are obviously entitled to money if you split up.

[ladyjayne]

Thanks kallis. I am going to go to citizens advice and I am hoping my mum will allow me to stop with her for a few days to get things in order without the mind games. I have spoken with my boss and have arranged a few days holiday so hopefully my next post will be more positive. I am going to sell quite a few things this weekend to reduce my overdraft. I will also have a car boot sale after the holidays as its pretty quiet now

[kallis3]

Hope you manage to get your head clear. Let us know how things go.

[Viki.W]

Hey ladyjayne, I feel, even though you are going through so much, that you sound a bit more positive. I'm sure the CAB will point you in the right direction. Just take it one day at a time. We're all here for you and don't forget the experts are here to help. Good luck, X

[facingittogether]

hi ladyjayne

thinking of you and i am glad alhough you are still very anxious you seem more positive!

remember we are all here for you, so please keep on posting, we will support you as much as we can!

love barb x