Hormones!

[coupleplus1]

Thanks everyone for your kind words, we probably will try next year and try to time it so that our little girl is at school so it will be less on childcare costs with just one being looked after.

I think its just been a bad couple of days as I was aiming for promotion later in the year and just got told that I didn't have enough of the right skills yet and it was mostly down to my managers not helping me early. The thing being was that if I got the promotion then we would have had the extra money to put to the IVA and also childcare costs.

Oh and also my doctor told me that if we wanted another child then I'm not getting any younger!!! I'm only 36 I didn't think I was that old!

Oh well such is life, these things are sent to try us

Andrea

[Julie]

Keep thinking positive Andrea - if you're too old at 36 what chance have I got at 39!!

What qualifications do you need for your promotion?

[coupleplus1]

Hi Julie

more leadship upwards skills! don't really know how they worked that one out as I am the 'expert' and only one in my field of work and have trained every one up and down to me and told them all what they have to do. Still I have booked onto a course on 'managing upwards'!!! and a confidence and assertiviness course. The wonderful civil service for you, you can have a job for life with good perks except you have to stay in the same job for ever. I can't even leave as they are paying part of our mortgage for 9 years as we relocated for them and also I get brilliant flexible working - only work mornings in the office and then make up 3 hours at home sometimes, like now!

I think it is ridiculous what the doctor said, and also I can't believe he said it - its so maddening that you just have to laugh I suppose!

Andrea

[Julie]

Hi Andrea,

You have to laugh hey! I know where you're coming from, I worked as a civil servant years ago and it seems nothing changes.

I'm lucky now - I have a lovely director who I see once a month. He doesn't mind me using internet as long as I'm running the business okay. I have done loads of courses - he encourages me to do so. I'm doing an A1 assessor training course at the moment -just to keep the brain ticking over and who knows may set up my own training centre in the future.

Do any courses you can, as you say you're stuck with them as an employer for now so try to get as many benefits as you can

[Skippy]

My mum was 43 when she fell pregnant with me, and 44 when I was born so don't give up hope. I'm her only child after being told it was unlikely she would have children, and having a couple of miscarriages, including twins.

[whichwaynow]

Hi Dee I hope things pick for you soon. This forum brings back the human spirit of all helping each other. If we all saw each other in the street the chances are we would just walk by with out a word.

[Julie]

Thanks for your posting Skippy - it gives me hope that its not too late for me. To be honest, I didn't realise how much a miscarriage can affect you - until it happened to me of course.

Makes me thankful for my 2 girls and grandaughters x

[Moneystinks]

I hope you all start to feel better soon!
Putting onafront is draining and all it takes is a day to start badly and that is it tears tantrums and then feelings of being silly and that you have over reacted to situations.
I know I have done and will continue to do it as it is just my nature. I always walk round with a smile on my face even when I feel terrible - it doesn't solve anything but I can keep people at arms length - not always the best idea as sometimes it sneaks up and bites ya!

As I said I hope things start to improve XX

[Viki.W]

I feel for all of you, it does help to post on here because it's amazing how many of us are in similar situations and can share our personal problems.

Dee, I'm sure your man will snap out of it soon and realise it is all for the best, it's hard to hold it together all on your own and although I know you think you're doing the right thing for your brother, after everything he has been through since he was little, I worry that you might not be getting enough help. I hope things at home improve for you soon.

Octavia, sorry to hear about your fella, you sound lovely, he's obviously making a BIG mistake!

Andrea, I have been putting off having a family for years now, all due to my debt problems really. There is hope for all of us, I believe. Anyway, love is the main ingredients for a great childhood not money.

Julie, I'm 37 and want children desperately, I want lots and lots and I'm sure we're not too old, not old enough more like!

I've been teary today aswell, but it just makes us stronger and builds character.....or at least that's what they say!

Love Viki X

[Viki.W]

Just wanted to say, I know what you mean Marie about bottling it all up, I think we do it for everyone else so I'm sure that makes us better people. Also, Lily, you seem such a strong person, you deserve lots of good things in life. Viki X

[coupleplus1]

I think I might start crying all over again cos you are all so nice and understanding.

I know whatever happens another little treasure or not we will still muddle through.

Andrea

[facingittogether]

hi everyone - just want to say that i feel for all of you who are feeling down today and i want to send you all a big hug!

dont be hard on yourselves - sometimes we bottle things up too much and then have to have some release before we crack!

chin up girls, whatever our problems we will get through it together, with the help of this site and the support of all of the lovely forum members!

sending loads of love

barb x

[freelili]

Dont worry everyone, its okay to feel sad and have a cry sometimes, we laugh when we are happy dont we? Its not a crime to say, please help me I am all alone and cant cope anymore. I think being vunerable and showing it deepens and strengthens our relationships.

I wouldnt think of myself as stong, I have been knocked down and beaten a few times. I just get up again, sometimes with attitude. lol. Its stuff like this that makes us stronger, I was a total wreak when I first came here.

Now you all know I am happy to be debt free but this morning I cried, really cried. I dont even know why, I guess its just the relief cos these last two years have been very tough but I can move on. By 10 oclock I was fine again. I think you have to allow yourself these human failings, like emotional outbursts and feeling bad and admitting it to yourself. As long as you dont hurt anyone.

Viki you have had an emotional morning, day, last few months. You cant expect to just sail through days like this.

Anyway peps I have to go now. I am off line for a just over a week, committments I have.

So stay sane, and I hope to read your good news soon.

Love

[Dee]

Take care Lily - look forward to hearing from you soon. X