Thank you m6, I really appreciate it and so would my mom.
I am just begining the painful process of clearing moms house ready for sale, it has made me think a lot. I would like to share this with all of you.
My mom and Dad had very little, they met becasue moms sister lily had died from cancer at 19. Her brother was on the same navy ship as Dad and he wrote to mom as her brother was too busy to go for a drink, having too many letters to write home.
Anyway they married had kids and had nothing, just ordinary people, bringing up kids, they bought a tent, we went away doing very simple things and the sun always seemed to shine. Dad was an engineer and had buisness, it failed, they started again and made it. They had really hard times, we really didnt have much in material terms. All I remember is them smiling, the walks, togetherness,the fun at no cost. Ok so mom and dad worked hard, I rememver that, they eventually had things, there are expensive things now but the most treasured we have found locked away so far are; little pencil sharpener that dad bought mom from wales, two ugly little frogs that my sister bought when she was seven, my graduation order of service,etc. All I can remember is her smiling, through it all the good and the bad. Her sense of humour was fantastic.
My point is that whatever life throws, its how you deal with it that is important, I had suicidal thoughts when I first joined this forum. I felt so ashamed and a failure. Irs not important anymore, not because I will have the money but because its not what is important in life. It costs nothing to smile, go for a walk and have a race with your kids, so smile people and leave behind what I have. Treasured memories of a childhood in which even when my parents lost everything, they made it into an adventure and smiled through it all. They were probably scared but I always felt secure. It has taken me thirty five years to realise what really matters. I hope you wont all think that I have gone too sloppy, well maybe I have but listen people, you are all important to your families, so have a jumping up and down competiotion and see who lasts the longest?
You are all important to me and I know that I would never be able to have faced all this without your support, its been fantastic. Specail thoughts go out to Zoe, Kerri and Illihor.
LILY
PS I will phone the asylum in the morning I promise.
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freelili on Wed Jan 24, 2007 1:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.
