Hi cantstopcrying and welcome to the forum[:)]
Firstly pleasestopcrying as there will be a solution to your debt probelm, and an iva is just one of those solutions.
What you really need to do, as Jan says, is to get some professional advice sooner rather than later so you know what your options are and then you can decide on the best route to take from there.
I am in an iva as it was the best solution for me, but it was not the only option available to me.
I used Melanie Giles to prepare my iva and recieved honest, professional and top notch advice. Lots of professional Insolvency Practitioners post on the forum and I am sure one will be along to give ruther advice soon.
www.iva.com is a great place to read reviews on IP's by their clients on the quality of advice and service they recieved.
Good Luck
Be positive & look after yourself, there are more important things in life than debts....
Best Wishes
Emma x