contempt of court! oh boy.
I think it relates to the benefit my partner was claiming for the past 6 years. I didnt live with her family, she has three other children from previous relationship and the situation tense, tho not volatile.Now other children have moved on, grown up.
I did not pay her bills, but i certainly paid out for loads of furniture and household things, as well as days out etc.
The subject of money has never been good between us, is now better i suppose as we are / i am slowly sinking.
My ignorance has cost me heavily.
I always thought i was intelligent and relatively careful with my finances. I have always worked, bar a couple of years, and always thought i was doing the right thing.
I havent run away from my responsibilities as Dad, but am made to feel that i should have.
I cant talk to csa anymore, they make it up as they go along, no negotiation, no reasonableness. I end up getting angry, and they just laugh. I have got someone who wrote them a letter, hes a solicitor i think. The csa wouldnt respond to him as i had not authorised him to be my third party or to speak on my behalf, and they didnt tell me this! I get angry now. Its crazy though i know irrelevent, I have worked most of my life as a carer or nurse, being responsive to individuals, taking consideration for certain situations and assisting as i go along. All of this Personalness, has now gone.
I digress, the csa also say that my debt has been refered to external debt collectors as they didnt receive the standing order payments for the past two months, which is odd because the payments did go out, but apparently they had the wrong refence detail, but the csa also negated to tell me that, so what chance do i have. This only was revealed to me when i called them to explain that my next payment would be impossible to meet. So now i think there will be men coming round to take stuff away. my missus wont be happy, and will probably be arrested if she sees her pride and joy being burgled. I not sure how i will react. I know its only stuff, it doesnt really amount to much value. Certainly nothing to what they say i owe.
I taken enough of your valuable time. Regards to all.
Canvey