HELP!

[Soulgrowth]

Venetia ... I hope you are ok this morning. Did you get to speak to Paul yesterday?

Debbie

[venetia]

Hello, I havent spoke to Paul yet, my computer started to play up last night and I couldnt get in. Im ok, still tearful and being sick over this, but its my fault. I am going to go and see my parents tomorrow and explain this whole sorry mess and see if they can help me (as suggested by Melanie Giles) they are very understanding people and ive never hid anything from them, plus I cant keep it to myself much longer. May I thank everyone for there words of support, I never knew there were such nice people out there. I will be back....

[Soulgrowth]

Good to hear from you Venetia ... try not to worry too much ... and keep us posted as to how you get on ... that's what we are all here for [:)]

Debbie

[Soulgrowth]

P.S

We all take turns in supporting one another here! You will probably find yourself supporting someone else soon [:)]

Debbie

[venetia]

I would like to think so, mind you the mess im making if things, I dont know who would want my advice.
When u say ur IVA failed, what happened to you debts that were tied up in it and how r u sorting it out now???

[MelanieGiles]

Venetia

You have made a minor error of judgement, at a time when you possibly felt that everything was crashing in on you - especially with the impending arrival of the little one.

Your IP is not going to be an ogre, or treat you like a school headmistress would, but try and have a plan of action to suggest to them when you speak to them. If your parents could help out, I am sure things will be find in a couple of days - and no-one wants to see your IVA fail because of this.

[venetia]

Thanks, will just be glad when I cen see a light at the end of the tunnel. Everything was going so well and I thought I had it all under control, my baby is due is a matter of days and I feel like im in a black hole and the happiness I had had vanished. Will be glad to see my parents...thanks u for ur kind words x

[Soulgrowth]

Hi Venetia ... mine is sadly a long and complicated case but, strangely enough, I summarised it in this thread yesterday http://www.iva.co.uk/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=10223

It feels good to get things off your chest doesn't it ... and rest assured that it is only through our own learning experiences that we can offer help and guidance to others ... so I am sure that we will see you popping up in the future, offering support to others [:)]

Debbie

[chris.g]

Venetia, it's good that you are telling your parents, they will support and help you through this but we are always here for you. We all need help and it's great to know that we have all these friends on here to help because they all know what it's like to feel desperately hopeless and not knowing where to turn....THIS IS NORMAL....we don't deal with problems like this everyday so it's hard when we have to. Your IP will probably have come across this thing before so will not be shocked. Try and contact Paul who will help you get things sorted ready for when you speak to them. Take care and try not to worry too much,
xx

[Skippy]

Hi Venetia, I'm hope things go well with your parents today, which I'm sure they will. I remember being absolutely terrified about telling my mum about my IVA, but she was great about it. You aren't a bad person - we all make errors of judgement but at the time you think you are doing the right thing. It's what makes us human!

Good luck with the baby - do you know whether you're having a boy or girl?

Don't forget to let us know how you get on, both with your IP and with the baby x

[venetia]

Thanks, my parents have fully supported me in the IVA, it was the only solution and I was so glad I entered it, my fear is that I have mucked it up and messed my life up, when I thought I was pretty much in control again.
I have my fingers crosed they can help, esp when they see the desperate state I am in at the moment.
oh,we are having a girl, due 9 days(poor thing,whats she being born into?) x

[Skippy]

Don't say that - she's going to have a mum that loves her, and thats the most important thing. I had an unusual upbringing as my dad was disabled and couldn't take me out or do what the other dads did and we didn't have a lot of money (although mum and dad made sure I never went without) but the most important thing was that they loved me and were always there for me.

Your daughter will know that you love her so focus on her. There is a solution to your IVA problems x

[venetia]

Ur probably right, just cant see it at the moment. Sorry to sound such a moaner, just feel like ive ruined everything x

[MelanieGiles]

A happy and loving family, who have responsibly dealt with their debts and want to pay something back rather than running away from things!

[chris.g]

You haven't ruined everything, you just made a mistake, that's what makes us all human.....
It won't be long until you are holding your gorgeous daughter and that is the most tremendous feeling in the world....
xx